Now, you can classify your list under two headings: ‘real things’ and ‘temporary things’ (these are just titles but they have been defined). Whatever reasons you have for liking someone are valid. However, there are reasons that are very temporary or materialistic, for lack of better words, these things are things that fade away. Does this mean that they are bad reasons? No. Nevertheless, they are not reasons enough, on their own, to like someone. The ‘real things’ are things that will most likely than not be permanent, for example, character, values, faith etc. So when you have your list, divide that list and put it under the appropriate heading or title. An example is shown below.
Material/ Temporary things
Imagine that the ‘temporary’ things faded away, for some reason (my fellow Christians will say God forbid!). Ask yourself these questions:
Would you still like this person?
Would you still respect this person?
Would you still feel like this person is the one for you?
Would you still be proud to be with this person?
Can you still see yourself getting married to this person?
Be honest as you answer these questions!
The truth is that we get married for completely wrong reasons! It is very important to look deep within ourselves to see why we truly want to be with someone. When you make your vows for better for worse, you might have it at the back of your mind that some things might temporarily fade away. Can you still stick with your husband/wife through the storms or does your love for that person vanish?
Most marriages don’t stand the test of time because the foundations of most marriages are on temporal/materialistic grounds. If you answered ‘no’ to most of these questions, then you might have to seriously rethink and pray about being in that relationship.